爱情观的英语作文

　　Whentheconversationcomestolove，italwaysraisethebiggestemotion，reactionandpassion。
　　But，
　　Whatislove？
　　Loveisthatfeelingyougetwhenyoumeettherightperson。Thisishowmanypeopleapproacharelationship。Consciouslyorunconsciously，theybelieveloveisasensation（basedonphysicalandemotionalattraction）thatmagically，spontaneouslygenerateswhenMr。orMs。Rightappears。Andjustaseasily，itcanspontaneouslydegeneratewhenthemagicjustisn39；tthereanymore。Youfallinlove，andyoucanfalloutofit。
　　Thekeywordispassivity。ErichFromm，inhisfamoustreatiseTheArtofLoving，notedthesadconsequenceofthismisconception：Thereishardlyanyactivity，anyenterprise，whichisstartedwithsuchtremendoushopesandexpectations，andyet，whichfailssoregularly，aslove。（Thatwasbackin1956chancesarehe39；dbeevenmorepessimistictoday。）
　　Sowhatisreal，lastinglove？
　　Loveistheattachmentthatresultsfromdeeplyappreciatinganother39；sgoodness。
　　LOVEISACHOICE
　　Iflovecomesfromappreciatinggoodness，itneedn39；tjusthappenyoucanmakeithappen。Loveisactive。Youcancreateit。Justfocusonthegoodinanotherperson（andeveryonehassome）。Ifyoucandothiseasily，you39；llloveeasily。
　　ACTIONSAFFECTFEELINGS
　　Nowthatyou39；refeelingsowarmlytowardtheentirehumanrace，howcanyoudeepenyourloveforsomeone？ThewayGodcreatedus，actionsaffectourfeelingsmost。Forexample，ifyouwanttobecomemorecompassionate，thinkingcompassionatethoughtsmaybeastart，butgivingtzedaka（charity）willgetyouthere。Likewise，thebestwaytofeellovingistobelovingandthatmeansgiving。
　　Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone（orevenyourself），hereisageneralguidetoloving。
　　1。Sayit。WhenyousaythewordsILoveYou，theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem，notwhatyousimplywanttofeel。Whenyousayit，makesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson。
　　2。Empathize。Putyourselfinsomeoneelse39；sshoes。Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem，tounderstandhowtheyfeel，wheretheycomefrom，andwhotheyare。Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell。
　　3。Loveunconditionally。Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations，thenitisnotloveatall，butdeepseatedopportunism（onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage，oftenunmindfulofothers）。Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch，butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife，thenitisnotunconditional。Islife，orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare，andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe，thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally。
　　4。Expectnothinginreturn。Thatdoesn39；tmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou。Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove。Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove。Rdonotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway。
　　5。Realizeitcanbelost。Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove，thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave。Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove。Don39；tmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove。Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem。
　　6。Neverstoploving。Evenifyouhavebeenhurtbeforeyoushouldnotstopgivinglove。
　　Youmustloveyourselfbeforeyoucanloveanother。Butbeforeyoucanloveyourself，youmustknowandunderstandyourselfprofoundly。Thisdeepunderstandingofyourselfwillautomaticallyleadyoutoloveyourself（sinceyouwillbecomeawareofyourpineessence）andyouwillalsoloveeveryotherpersonatthatsamemoment（becauseyouwillrecognizethatsamepineessenceineveryotherperson）。
　　TheaboveiswhatIthinkaboutLOVE。